Love what you are doing

It does not matter what you do. It matters if you love what you are doing, So many people are unhappy about there job, there study, the place they live etc. Try to do something about the things in life which make you unhappy, instead of accepting your misery and trying to live with it. Life is short, have fun! The world is one big playground if you open up to the fun side.

Love what you are doing

I focus on activities that make me happy. I don’t want to have a miserable job, and have the idea that all will be better when I earned my credits. I don’t take the pain. I try to take the fun, and I want it now. Not when I am rich or when I have reached a certain form of perfection.

A variety of things


A few years ago I learned an important lesson from an article in a magazine. Often people focus on one thing that they want to achieve and they want to become the best in that subject. This often makes us disappointed because a lot of times we don’t achieve perfection.

The article taught me that it is better to have basic knowledge of a variety of things. This will often make us more happy than trying to achieve perfection in one subject. Our struggles to achieve perfection can become bitter fights full of disappointments and long days of hard and miserable work.

I have a variety of things that I am interested in. Sometimes I wish I could focus on one thing, having one passion, one thing in which I achieve perfection. However, I know that doing that will probably not make me happy, so I learned to enjoy being busy with a variety of things.

Perfection and satisfaction

Often when you think you reached perfection, unhappiness comes peeking around the corner, telling you that you could do even better than what you just achieved. You worked yourself to dead, only to realize it did not give you total satisfaction, and then you start working even more. Will it be worth it at the end?

Not only the end goal should give you satisfaction, but the way to get there should provide you with happiness as well. On certain moments it is alright to crawl trough the mud when you want to achieve something, but make sure you don’t go from one mud pool to another.

People should not spend large parts of their life feeling bad about what they are doing. Do you really want to spend your life feeling miserable? I don’t think so. Have your piece of the pie now. Make sure the path to the goal gives you great joy. Love what you are doing. The road to your success should be a triple chocolate cake, and the end goal should be the icing on that cake.

What kind of things do you love to do?  

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Start Growing

Have you ever thought of learning how to develop yourself and grow as a human being? It can be difficult to know where to begin. Maybe you started looking for information online. You entered the words Personal Development in the Google search bar and quickly became overwhelmed by all the information available. Where to start you might have thought and maybe you got so demoralized that you decided to let it be. So far for your attempt to have a better life.

Maybe giving up at that point seemed not such a big deal but realize that you started looking because you felt you needed to improve some unsatisfying aspects of your life. That unsatisfied feeling will stay and grow and you know that eventually you will find yourself typing in those same Google search words again or maybe you just give up and settle for a mediocre live. At least you tried.

Now that is obviously not a scenario you desire. Don’t worry, this article will teach you the first step you have to take when you want to start improving yourself. Actually when you choose to look online for advice about personal development or read this article you already have your first foot on the start line and that is the most important one on your path.

The first step

Whether you want to learn about Personal Development because you want to become a better public speaker, become more confident or any other reason you might have, there is one important decision that you need to make. That is the decision to begin to grow and develop yourself. Whoever you are or what ever your situation is, everybody has to take that first step. Compare it to driving lessons. We all make a choice to learn how to drive a car and we need to learn the basic driving skills but after that we decide for ourselves where to drive to.

Have no fear

Be not afraid of growing slowly; be afraid only of standing still.
Chinese Proverb

You need to decide that Personal Development is going to be a part of your life. Realize however, that the process is going to be tough and long. You need to be really committed to your goal. It is not going to happen with a quick fix.

Maybe all kinds of questions and fears are popping up now. What if it is too difficult, what if it takes too much of my time, what if I fail. Forget all those fears, you are already close to your most important victory. Which is making the intelligent choice to start focusing on growth and development. That could become the most important decision in your life.

Don’t think about the next steps for now, you will figure them out later and you will overcome them too. Yes Self Improvement will be difficult work sometimes but remember that you are in the process of development. From now on you will only fail if you give up on yourself and your decision to grow in life.

Don’t worry about the time consuming factor. You decide how much time you want to put into Personal Development but remember that you are growing and that means that it can never be wasted time. Realize that you will waste time and probably your life when you don’t take action and settle for a mediocre life instead of living the life of your dreams.

Don’t worry if you do not see immediate results. Personal Development can be a very slow process. Be patient, as long as you feel that you keep growing your on the right path.

Are you ready?

I Assume, because you are reading this article, that you want to start growing. Think about that decision. It is an important one so take your time. Think about the advices in the article, think about your current situation and eventually decide if you are ready to start improving your life.

If you are ready to make a commitment to yourself then make sure it is a strong one. Don’t agree with thoughts like: I will try or: well let’s see first. Make the decision with whole your hart and soul. Go stand in front of the mirror and repeat it out loud a few times: ‘I am ready to start growing. ‘ ‘I am ready to start living the life of my dreams. ‘ Remember this moment, it could become the most important moment in your life.

Again, don’t worry about what you have to do next. You completed the biggest and most important step already. From here on you are in control. Whether you keep following my advices or those of somebody else, whether you decide to go to seminars or read motivational books to make the next step, it is all up to you now. The first step is universal the next one’s are personal but one thing is sure: you are now committed to start living the life of your dreams. Nothing is going to stop you because you know what you want. You want to grow.

I would like to read about your decision to change your life. What motivated you to start developing yourself? What did you feel at that moment and how do you look back at it? What is your next step to improve?  You can leave your comment in the comment section below.

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Doi Inthanon, the first mountain.

My first mountain summit
After a long and tough battle I reached the top of Doi Inthanon, the highest mountain in Thailand, on 10-07-07 around 16:30 a clock.  Originally it was my goal to go to the mountain to gather some information, scan the environment, climate etc. It took me so long to reach the mountain that I decided to walk to the top at the same day.Visitor center Doi Inthanon

I was dropped of at the visitor center and went inside to ask how much km it was to the top.  It turned out to be 17 km. I thought that was a task I could complete so I bought some more water and started walking.  It was in the middle of the day so the sun was very hot. To hot in my opinion. The extra water I bought became very useful as well as the salted chips and chocolate that kept me going. Still after two hours I was battling not to get a heath stroke. At extreme moments like that you really learn how to be good for yourself. You have to take care of yourself otherwise you won’t make it. You have to eat, you have to drink.  Even if you don’t want to.

The road went on and so did I. Occasionally I got a surprised look from people who where going up or down the mountain. What was that strange farrang doing, walking up the mountain in the heath of the day. There was a guy who approved me when he saw me battling the steep mountain road. He turned out to be Dutch like me and he turned out to become my hero of the day. He asked how I was doing and offered me a ride to the top. I rejected. Sure I would like it but then I would not be satisfied at the end.  He wanted to help me  though and offered to go to the top a little bit later and then wait for me there so that we both could drive back down.  He turned to go visit the waterfall first and I went on with my mission.

Great view
Great view from Doi Inthanon

The battle became  more tough every meter and I needed to res a lot.  Yet I was determined to make it and now I had a deadline. I needed to be on that mountain to at 16:00 a clock to get a nice ride back to town. I still had 9 tough km’s to go. The whole time dangerously dark clouds hang above me and I started to worry as it got later and later. Worst of all I did not have a jacket. I had bought a poncho the day before I went to the mountain but it turned out to be a child size.

Luckely I found a shop along the way and was able to buy a good sized poncho. The lady also gave me the demorilizing news that I still had to climb 5 km’s. I looked at the sky. The wether got worse. It got late and I was about to miss my deadline. I thought about giving up but could not stand that idea because I was so close to my goal.  I decided to push on. The next few km’s there where a lot more moments where I thought of giving up. But I was so close..

At some point Serge, the guy that offered to help me, drove by on his way to the top. I waved but he did not notice me. I  knew now that I had to hurry to the top otherwise I could be stuck on a mountain without the promise of a ride back. I was at my breaking point though. The steep parts where horrible and I had to stop every 50 meter to stop the burning feeling in my legs.  Every time the road got steep there was a warning sign and I strarted to hate it.  Every once in a while a different sighn showed me how much km it was to the top, 5, 4, 3..

The last 2 km's
The last 2 km’s to the top

The view was breathtaking but I could not bring up the power anymore to look or make pictures. I was determined to reach the top thinking of nothing. Just one step after another. Just as I thought the last 2 km whould demolisch my body. Serge came back from the top. He told me I was almost there. Where did those last two km’s go? He offered  me a ride again. I told him I would walk. We went around the corner and there it was the summit.  Yet I was so broken down I did not even had the energy to be uforic.

The highest point in Thailand
The highest point in Thailand

We made some photo’s as prove. It was great that Serge could make them. How would I be able to make those pictures on my own. Serge turned out to be even more of a hero by driving me all the way back to the center of Chang Mai. As soon as we reached Chang Mai, the sky bursted open and rain came down on us in buckets. We got soken weth but I could not be more thankfull that those could that where hanging abouve me did not burst open earlyer that day.

It was an exting day and a great adventure. We celebrated with beers that night. Step ! of my goal was accomplished.

Serge on the motorcycle that brought us back to civilization.

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Create your own world

 

This week the spotlight is on Ralph Waldo Emerson. I created a small biography about Emerson which you can read by clicking on the link below the article. He was a writer, poet lecturer and essayist who created the foundations of the transcendentalism movement. Among the transcendentalists’ core beliefs was the belief in an ideal spirituality that “transcends” the physical and empirical and is realized only through the individual’s intuition.

The publication of Emerson’s 1836 essay Nature is usually considered the moment at which transcendentalism became a major cultural movement. Emerson wrote in his speech “The American Scholar”: “We will walk on our own feet; we will work with our own hands; Divine Soul which also inspires all men.” Emerson closed the essay by calling for a revolution in human consciousness to emerge from the new idealist philosophy:

So shall we come to look at the world with new eyes. It shall answer the endless inquiry of the intellect, — What is truth? and of the affections, — What is good? by yielding itself passive to the educated Will. … Build, therefore, your own world. As fast as you conform your life to the pure idea in your mind, that will unfold its great proportions. A correspondent revolution in things will attend the influx of the spirit.

Emerson believed in individualism, harmony between man and nature. He defines nature as a paradise rather than being ruled by a superior being.

The God inside us

I got inspired by his words and started thinking about my own ideas of god and nature. For me personally when I look at god I think of two things. First of all I feel that I am my own God. I can love, I can give, I can create. It is a wonderful feeling if you realize that you can create your own world. That God is inside you. It is a wonderful feeling that you can overcome anything, become anything you want and achieve anything you want. We human beings are a fantastic life form and we should treat our mind and body with the biggest respect because it is this machine which makes it all possible.

Nature

We also should pay respect to everything else around us. Because our surroundings supply us with anything we need. Stay sharp and look for opportunities provided to you. Have a lot of respect for nature as it is our beautiful supplier.

That brings me to my second idea of God. We may be our own personal creators but we are also one with nature. We have to pay respect to the nature around us because that is the place where the real magic happens.

Nature is chaos and order combined into a lush salad of well combined miracles.
It is the way healing comfrey plants grow close to stinging nettle plants. Its the way every animal has his part in the food chain. It is the enormously strong will to live in all humans, plants and animals that makes them make the most epic journeys or the most thoughtful solutions to survive. It is the adjustments like colored camouflage of animals that can go up in their environment. It is the amazing efficiency of ants working together. It is a lonely bright colored flower in a field of greyness.

We live in a beautiful world in a fantastic machine with a magnificent control center. Closer to paradise we will never become. Treasure yourself as much as you can for you are a miracle. Treasure anything around you because you are surrounded by so much other miracles which deserve your love and attention.

Treat your body as a temple, your mind as a library and the world and people around you as its visitors. They will bring you gifts and knowledge when you are good to them and listen to them. Pay respect to them and expand there library with your wisdom. If we do this we will become even better creator’s and our lives will be great and successful. This brings me back to Emerson again who wrote the following beautiful words:

SUCCESS

To laugh often and much;
To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty,
To find the best in others,
To leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;
To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.
This is to have succeeded.

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The joy of giving

 

In this blog post I like to talk about the joy of giving. The more you give the more you eventually will get back. The feeling of giving creates a great boost of happiness. We feel good when we give and we should do it often and in great amounts.

A great way to start giving is by buying a present for someone every week.

Pick a person every week or month to who you will send a nice present. Find out what keeps them busy at that particular moment. Maybe you can give a book connected to the subject of their attention. Maybe your person of interest is really enthusiastic about a music band and you can give the bands newest album.

Now that it is almost Christmas a lot of people experiencing a stressful period. Many Christmas gifts have to be bought but do we buy them because we feel the desire to give or do we do it because its socially required to give presents during the holiday seasons? Think about it and keep giving when Santa is long gone.

Take good care of yourself and everybody around you and remember: give as much as you can and as often as you can. I wish everybody happy holiday’s!

Are you sharing and giving with your friend on a regular basis? Are you more of a charity person or do you prefer giving presents to you friends? Do you do it often or do you give more during the holiday seasons? What was the last present you gave to someone? Leave al your interesting responses in the comment section below.

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